Talking to a friend the other night, I realized something for the first time (probably because she pointed it out). Whenever I would initiate a conversation with her I would never ask how she was doing or talk about the weather or a million other mundane things. 99% of the time I would talk to her about the game we are both involved in (DragonRealms). I was a bit taken aback by this revelation but, thinking on it, she was absolutely correct. It got me to thinking about a few things.
For all of the years I have known her and talked to her online, I realized I did not really know her. This is as much my fault as anything. I think I, subconsciously, stuck to "safe" and familiar topics because I did not really know her that well. By doing that I wasn't exactly getting to know her better. I have to wonder if it was some kind of subconscious attempt to keep from exposing too much of myself. Now that I am aware of what I was doing, I'm doing everything I can to remedy that. I always knew she was a brilliant, funny and beautiful lady and I look forward to getting to know more about her.
There is a point to all of this (finally you say). I started wondering how many of us do this? How many of us spend years talking to someone and never really get to know them or allow them to know us? How many of us stick to safe and familiar topics in order to keep others at bay and not allow them to know the real us? If you do it too, why do you think that is?